Nov 11, 2024
In this episode of The MHP Broker’s Tips and Tricks
podcast, Maxwell Baker, president of The Mobile Home Park Broker,
chats with old friend and fellow former U.S. Marine Andrew Toothman
about his Mental Grenade blog site and FOB Truth non-profit
plans.
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Here Are the Show
Highlights:
- Max has known and been good friends with Andrew
“Drew” Toothman since they met at U.S. Marine boot camp. They later
attended the Marine Music School together. Max invited Drew on to
discuss his non-profit ambitions for vets, first responders, and
others needing moral, emotional and spiritual support. (Max,
0:22)
- After their School of Music time together, the
two friends got separated. Drew was sent to Okinawa for a year. He
got married to Misty, then got sent to Twentynine Palms, in the
Mojave Desert. He was trained in explosive ordnance disposal and
was deployed to Afghanistan. After experiencing multiple concussive
hits and serious concussions, Drew was medically discharged from
the Marines after more than 12 years. (Drew, 4:14)
- Drew, Misty and their three kids moved to
Pennsylvania, and Drew attended auto diesel school. He had
extensive problems transitioning from military to civilian life
because of the relative lack of structure. He didn’t feel like he
had a community any longer. (Drew, 5:42)
- Drew was dealing with PTSD from his military
days and before, and going through a period of intense
self-reflection. 7:38)
- Drew helped establish, then worked on, a
non-profit organization dealing with the mental health needs of
veterans, until he left the organization at the end of 2019. He
learned the importance of community, so he worked to set up his own
online community, which became FOB Truth. In the military, FOB
stands for “forward operating base.” But in his new life, Drew had
FOB Truth mean “fundamentals of Biblical truth.”) (Drew,
8:53)
- Drew started a blog called Mental Grenade, and
used it to draw people to his regular Thursday evening Zoom
meetings where they discuss the Bible and their own spiritual and
emotional needs. That’s FOB Truth. (Drew, 17:50)
- The way FOB Truth is structured, the first two
hours are Bible study, and the next two are support group chat.
People check in and check out whenever they want, so it’s not a
matter of having to commit to a four-hour Zoom meeting every
Thursday evening. (Drew, 31:02)
- The stories that attendees tell can be very
dark and personal, which is why Drew would never record or put the
meetings online. (Drew, 32:46)
- While Drew’s community is currently online,
he’d like to get to where he could meet with his community in
person. To that effort, he invited two men who’d found him online
to stay with the family for a while and help prepare his eight-acre
property for future community events such as meeting around a
campfire and talking in-depth. What Drew is trying to do is the
opposite of establishing a mega church. He’s following Christ’s
example of talking with small groups of people rather than large
crowds. His efforts are more one-on-one. (Drew, 35:33)
- Drew’s weekly FOB Truth online meetings have
drawn veterans, law enforcement personnel, nurses, EMT workers,
therapists, pastors and civilians from all walks of life. Some just
attend a meeting or two while others have become long-time
regulars. (Drew, 38:11)
- The way to join FOB Truth is to reach out to
Drew through his blog, MentalGrenade.com, or reach him at his
personal phone number: (434) 473-8886. Join the community. (Drew,
45:29)
- You can also go to FOBTruth@gmail.com. (Drew,
47:06)
If you’re thinking of selling your mobile home park
or RV community, contact Max Baker at The Mobile Home Park Broker,
(678) 932-0200. You can also drop us a line at
info@themhpbroker.com.
Power Quotes in This
Episode:
(On leaving the military) “But then you get out and you're
suddenly saying, ‘Who am I outside of this uniform? And what am I
supposed to do with my life? Because if my rank is no longer part
of my name, and my job title doesn't mean anything to anybody on
the outside? What am I supposed to do,’ and you have these veterans
who are left without structure.” (Drew, 5:42)
“It takes
more avenues of approach than you think it does to find stability
in your mental health if there's been trauma and other
things.” (Drew, 7:38)
“Humans
are tribal, they're meant to be in community. And when they're not,
and they're in their own environment, and they can just order their
groceries online and have them delivered to the dorm and they don't
really have to go anywhere…I mean, imagine that the American
knowledge worker sits at a computer all day, gets paid by direct
deposit, doesn't have to go pick up a check. And they can order
their groceries online, they don't have to leave their house, all
the services are networked to their one place, and they live in
isolation. And it's crushing their soul.” (Drew, 8:53)
“I realized, like, we’ve got to start pulling
people out of isolation and getting them into community…there’s
just a lot of spiritually unmoored people out there drifting.”
(Drew, 8:53)
“I just
started this group, and I started inviting people online, and it
slowly formed and morphed a little bit. But ultimately, it became
known as FOB truth. (Drew, 8:53)
“I was
spiritually lost when I was out there in the thick of combat in
Afghanistan.” (Drew, 15:07)
“God’s
word can transcend culture and timeframe.” (Drew, 17:50)
(On going
to church as a child) “I remember just getting up on Sunday and
getting dressed, going through the motions, doing the whole hand
gesture, get the wine, I'm like, you know, a 10, 12-year-old boy
during a while feeling like I was, you know, I was on top of the
world, and the communion as well, and go home, and then forgetting
about it. And then as I've gotten older, you realize, like, it's
just not as powerful as the community aspect that you're talking
about. (Max, 21:56)
“That's been one of the things that God blessed me
with over the last decade, was to keep my mouth shut and listen to
people.” (Drew, 28:13)
“I kind of view FOB Truth as a halfway house
church.” (Drew, 35:33)